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Go to the Person - Tuesday, 08/25/2026

Scripture Reading: Matthew 18:12–17

Just before Jesus talks about what to do when someone hurts us, he tells a story about a shepherd searching for one sheep that has wandered away. That placement matters. Jesus' approach to conflict begins with a basic conviction: people matter enough to go after.

Our instinct is often different. When someone frustrates us, it can feel easier to talk to somebody else. We tell a friend, a coworker, another family member, or anyone who will reassure us that we are right. Sometimes we need wise counsel, but there is a difference between seeking help and simply gathering people onto our side.

Jesus says, in effect: start with the smallest circle possible. Go directly to the person. Speak privately. Give the relationship a chance before the disagreement becomes public. The purpose is not humiliation or winning; it is the possibility of understanding and repair.

That does not mean every situation should be handled privately. Abuse, intimidation, threats, harassment, or unsafe power differences require outside help and strong boundaries. But in ordinary disagreements, one of the healthiest questions we can ask is surprisingly simple: “Have I actually talked with the person involved?”

Reflection Question: Is there a situation you have talked about with others more than you have talked about with the person involved?

Concrete Action Step: Identify one ordinary, safe conflict or misunderstanding. Instead of discussing it with someone else today, decide on a respectful way to approach the person directly.

Prayer: God, give me courage to move toward people instead of around them. Help me speak directly, honestly, and kindly when something needs to be addressed. Amen.